Couples Therapy
A place to understand what happens between you — and discover a different way of being together.
Relationships can become caught in patterns that neither person intended. Conversations turn into arguments. Small moments carry more weight than they once did. You may feel unheard, misunderstood, distant, or unsure how to find your way back to one another.
Couples therapy gives us a place to slow those patterns down and become curious about what is happening between you. Rather than deciding who is right or wrong, we'll pay attention to the relationship itself — what each of you is experiencing, what each of you brings to the space between you, and what may be asking for your attention.
A brief introduction to how I approach couples therapy and the patterns that develop between us.
What Our Work Might Look Like
We'll begin with the relationship as it is today. That may include conflict, emotional distance, loss of trust, difficulty communicating, intimacy concerns, or simply the feeling that you've lost some of the connection you once had.
Our work will be collaborative. We'll become curious about the patterns that develop between you — particularly what happens when one or both of you feel hurt, threatened, unheard, or disconnected.
The goal isn't to create a relationship without disagreement. It's to help you understand one another more deeply and develop a relationship in which there is more room for honesty, choice, connection, and repair.
Beginning Couples Therapy
Sessions last 55 minutes.
Our first session gives us an opportunity to begin understanding your relationship together. I'll want to hear from both of you about what brings you to therapy, what has been difficult, what still works, and what each of you hopes might be different.
We don't need to determine immediately who's responsible for what or solve everything at once. We'll begin by understanding the relationship you've created together and the patterns that have developed within it.
How often should we meet?
I generally recommend beginning with weekly sessions so we have enough continuity to understand the patterns we're working with and begin creating meaningful change. As our work progresses, we can decide together whether meeting less frequently makes sense.